The 39 signs you're a modern gentleman

Tweed suits are essential for the modern man
Tweed suits are essential for the modern man (Source: Getty)

Being a gentleman in the modern connected world can be a tricky feat for any fellow.

What's the etiquette for having a smartphone at dinner? Is it ok to use emojis? Answers: put it on silent and yes - but know when (and when not) to use them.

These tips, along with 39 others, are the rules to adhere to for living the life of the truly modern man, according to Country Life magazine.

Grooming, sartorial choices, how to behave and even outdoor pursuits are all covered, leaving any gent with either a list of items to proudly check-off or life goals to live up to.

No-nos include lilac socks and sandals (never, and definitely not together), using a hair dryer, taking a holiday getaway in Puerto Rico and being a vegetarian.

Here are Country Life's 39 steps to being a modern gentleman, which appear in the latest issue of the magazine.


Never lets a door slam in someone's face

Arrives at a meeting five minutes before the agreed time

Sings lustily in church

Swats flies and rescues spiders

Is unafraid to speak the truth

Style and grooming

Is aware that facial hair is temporary, but a tattoo is permanent

Possesses at least one well-made dark suit, one tweed suit, and a dinner jacket

Avoids lilac socks and polishes his shoes

Can tie his own bow tie

Sandals? No. Never

Wears a rose, not a carnation

Never blow dries his hair

Would never own a Chihuahua


Never kisses and tells

Can undo a bra with one hand

Demonstrates that making love is neither a race nor a competition

Breaks a relationship face to face

Dining, entertaining and outdoor pursuits

Is not vegetarian

Turns his mobile phone to silent at dinner

Seeks out his hostess at a party

Carries house guests' luggage to their rooms

Tips staff in a private house and a gamekeeper

Says his name when being introduced

Can prepare a one-match bonfire

Would not go to Puerto Rico

Is good with waiters

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